A Journey to Healing

Have you ever been hurt so badly that you thought you’d never come out on the other side? I have experienced both mental and physical pain inflicted by others. In the midst of the pain and even after the reality of the painful event is over, you sometimes think you will feel the grief of it forever. I know that is what I thought after the first true, potentially life-changing, pain of my adult life.

Perhaps you’re still holding onto the grief of a painful experience. If you are, then it’s time to learn how to let go of past pain. You deserve to let it go and learn how to move forward with your life. You deserve to Journey to your healing!

Holding onto past pain and anguish is a kind of self-inflicted torture. It can cause you serious health risks as well as emotional scarring. The truth is, when you cling to the past, you’re internally changing your present.

How can something you’ve kept inside for so long just be let go? Don’t get me wrong, it’s not an easy task. But it can be done with a little effort, self-reflection and support.

Here are some ways you can let go of past pain and disappointment, so you can move forward and Journey to healing, with your head held high:

1.      Know what’s holding you back. What are you holding onto and why? Identify the things you’re keeping inside that you shouldn’t be.

• For example, maybe your best friend betrayed you in a way that broke your trust. Recognize this and figure out a way to finally deal with it. Get in touch with them again, then explain the pain they’ve caused.

• They may not even be aware they did anything to upset you. Whether or not they apologize isn’t important. While it may be nice, you CAN Not control others or force them to apologize. However, by simply voicing your feelings, you are finding closure from the hurtful situation.

• Confront the cause of the pain and do everything in your power to get rid of it.

• Getting closure on something that was left open-ended can make a huge difference in letting things go.

2.      Talk it out. If the person who caused the hurt is still in your life, talk to them about the way they made you feel. If that person isn’t available, try to talk to a close friend or professional therapist about the situation.

• Getting your emotions out in the open can help you get over any resentment or anger you may be feeling. Bottling up your emotions is never a good thing. Let it all out in a constructive way and you’ll be amazed at how much better you’ll feel. 

3.      Forgive and forget. It may sound easier said than done, but forgiving someone who has hurt you can be extremely therapeutic. Strive to let things stay in the past and don’t allow them to affect your present.

• Once you learn to forgive the people who’ve caused your pain, you will find it far easier to heal and move on with your life.

• Forgiveness does not mean that you must place yourself back into a painful situation or stay in a painful situation. There are times when you must forgive and move yourself to safety either mentally or physically or both.

4.      Make the first move. You’re in charge of your pain. You’re the one who carries it around with you and you’re the only one who can change its intensity. It’s up to you to take control of the pain and take the first step towards the Journey of healing and making yourself feel better.

• Pray for guidance and help in moving toward forgiveness and healing.

• Reflect on your life and actions, healed from your pain.

• Acknowledge that your pain is real and that a positive solution exists.

• Yield to your requested guidance, including to engage in positive affirmations & actions of self-care, healing and worth.

The best way to move forward is to forgive the past. You can’t change the past, you might as well learn to accept it and move on. You’ll be glad you did once you see just how bright your future can be when you regain control of your life.

Make the conscious decision, today, to live your life free from pain and resentment.

“You cannot heal or mend a hurt, pain or resolve a problem, until you find it’s source.” 

~Unknown~

“Of one thing I am certain, the body is not the measure of healing, peace is the measure.”  

~Phyllis McGinley~

“Healing does not mean going back to the way things were before, but rather allowing what is now to move us closer to God.”         

 ~Unknown~

LORD my God, I called to you for help, and you healed me.

~Psalm 30:2~

Your Future Pilot to Transformation,

BA Design ~ MA Ed ~ Certified Life Coach ~ Workshop Facilitator

**DISCLAIMER~PLEASE NOTE**– This post is for informational purposes only. I am not a medical professional. This post is based upon my own experiences and is not intended to suggest that others take it as professional medical advice. Always consult your medical professional before making any changes to your medication or lifestyle.